The Importance of Nonverbal Communication
Bethany Slovik
Nonverbal communication is the most effective way of emphasizing and conveying a message, skill, technique, or strategy when peer tutoring. Despite the necessity of advice and aid that writing centers provide, without positive and encouraging body language, a tutoring session could rapidly become a catastrophe. Nonverbal communication varies from person to person, based on multiple differing characteristics, such as sex, familiarity with the program and writing tutor, and without doubt, many other attributes. Prior to my research and observations, I predicted that nonverbal communication would play the most important role between the student writer and tutor when the circumstance was that neither had known each other before they met for the appointment. I assumed that it would be vital to every situation, however valued more in such a situation when dealing with total strangers despite age or sex differences.
The first person I met with for my fellowed class was approximately the same age as me and of the opposite sex. I paid close attention to what he was saying and what he did not say. I had never met or seen him on campus or anywhere else, so this was our first time meeting. He seemed a little uncomfortable at the beginning of our appointment, and although his voice was still shaky at the end of our session, he seemed slightly more at ease. At the beginning of our session, I had waited for his nonverbal cues as to how I thought he would expect me to act. I smiled meekly and politely when he first walked into the MCCC Writing Center. He sat down and seemed jittery. After he let out a nervous laugh, I laughed with him and I could immediately see his tension ease and he became slightly more relaxed, but not entirely at ease. I did not want to laugh before he did, because I have had appointments with people when I laughed first and afterward, the student seemed to think I was not very serious about the assignment or about helping him or her. I did not move my chair closer to him, because he seemed to slightly flinch every time I would use even subtle gestures. For example, he did not understand exactly what a thesis statement was, and after I explained it to him a few different times in various ways he seemed to understand. I became excited because I had been anticipating his understanding of what I was talking about, and I slightly tapped my hand on the table and said There you go, thats it exactly, however he seemed more afraid than congratulated. In this case, with the first time meeting a student, who is of the opposite sex, things went smoothly after I learned his nonverbal cues and patterns, and I realized that he responded best to a quiet physical and verbal tone.
The Allyn and Bacon Guide to Peer Tutoring says, Does a writer slumping in her chair mean shes bored? Does a writer rapidly reading from his text, barely allowing the tutor to understand or keep up, indicate hes not crazy about coming to the writing center (51). It is sometimes difficult to keep from assuming too much about the student writer, especially when he or she gives all of the typical signs of a bored, annoyed, or unhappy student. The writing center is the easiest place to assume things about people; however, it seems to also be the most deceiving of places to read people at the same time. When a writer comes to the Writing Center and does not seem interested in his or her paper, that does not necessarily mean that he or she plagiarized, did not put much effort into it, or does not care one way or another. Maybe the student is having a rough day or could even have a learning or reading disability. The possibilities are unlimited, and it is essential to remember to keep an open mind in the Writing Center, especially about the drafts received from students.
Another person I met with is female and in an older age group than me. The draft of her paper that I received was written on wide ruled paper and photocopied. The paper was not even half of the required length for the final draft and majority of the paragraphs were made up of three run-on sentences. It had no thesis statement, introduction, conclusion, or transitions. I wrongly assumed that this writer did not care about her paper, and I felt that this might be someone who was not going to honestly listen to anything I would have to say and would probably waste my time. I tried to keep an open mind, but it was a little difficult, until I met her. She had a more in-depth copy of her paper with her for the appointment, and she explained that she forgot the due date for the first draft to give to the Writing Fellows and that she had been having trouble with her car all week and did not make it to a few of her classes because of it. She was excited about listening to me and coming to the Writing Center, even though it was her first time there and she did not know what to expect. She was smiling, laughing, and when she sat down, she immediately sat less than an entire foot away from me. I fluctuated from serious, when commenting on her few mechanical errors, to joking to get her to relate and feel more at ease when I sensed slight nervousness. According to Dennis Coon, in Introduction to Psychology Gateways to Mind and Behavior, positive reinforcement is Responses that are followed by reward [which will] tend to occur more frequently, which is exactly what this student writer exemplified. Every time she seemed slightly hesitant, I would soothe her with positive reinforcement and she would seem to become more willing to talk after each problem or anxiety was faced and resolved.
The last two people that I met with for my fellowed class were both people I had known prior to our meetings in the Writing Center. The female student had been in a few of my classes in previous semesters and one this semester and we talked frequently. The male student went to the same high school as I had, and I had been in a class with him during last semester. The female student, about my age, seemed more apt to talk during our meeting than the male student, who is slightly older than me. They both knew me equally well before coming into the Writing Center; however, the male student did not seem as comfortable as the female student. He was confident about his paper, and showed little concern for it, but there was something that seemed to hinder our meeting. The female student jumped right into the session, asking questions, taking notes, and rewriting parts of her paper right then and there. The male student never responded much differently throughout our appointment together, staying unusually quiet physically and verbally. I came to realize that he was not used to me being slightly more serious as I was in the Writing Center; he assumed that we would not really talk about his paper, and his scrunched up and interrogative facial expressions led me to believe this. I acted about how I usually did around each of them; however, I closely observed both of their nonverbal cues as to how they expected me to act around them, seeing as my role as a Writing Fellow in the Writing Center plays a different role than just another student they have or had class with at one time or another. I was reserved and polite to begin and waited for their actions before I reacted without notice. I did not outburst with laughter as I may have while talking to either of them in class; however, I was not unaffected or emotionally detached from either appointment. At one point, the female student seemed to tense up, and I realized that this was at the point where I changed from telling her what was interesting and well developed in her paper to a few mistakes she made with grammar and an awkward or wordy sentence here or there. I realized this as soon as I told her some things I thought could be improved or worded differently so to clarify for the reader. She probably felt judged because she knew me, and my high academic standards, based on my personal disclosure in class. I simply followed up with positive reinforcement making sure she knew that she was on the right track and that she was not far from completing the assignment according to the professors expectations. This put her at ease once again and there were no problems after that point in our appointment session.
Despite varying situations or encounters in the Writing Center, nonverbal communication is always valuable, effective and inevitable. Sometimes people try to project a certain image of themselves to others. Even when these people are not attempting to do so, they are constantly producing an image to the public through their body language, otherwise known as nonverbal communication. I found that there is no way to avoid using nonverbal communication, especially in the Writing Center. The age of the student writers did not decide the way they treated their assignment or me during our meetings. Whether I knew the person prior to the session or not was important, because the students who knew me outside of the Writing Center seemed to have some unknown hindrances in the way they acted in the Writing Center, perhaps feeling more closely scrutinized by someone they knew, as opposed to a total stranger that they would probably never see again. The male students were not as willing to talk or give ideas as the female students. In Nonverbal Communication in Human Behavior, it says In naturalistic interaction-that is, settings where people are interacting more or less naturally and are not aware of being observed-females predominantly choose to interact with others (of either sex) more closely than males do, (Knapp 115) showing that perhaps males are not as willing to interact as females in any situation and not just in the Writing Center. Nonverbal communication is one of the most important variables to consider and recognize in the Writing Center whether with students of varying ages, opposite or same sex, or previously known before the appointment. Nonverbal communication seems to be either more necessary or else less effective, however, when dealing with male students whether acquaintances or total strangers. Once again, the most important idea to remember while assessing the student writers behavior and paper is to keep an open mind to what they are saying, but also to what they are not saying.
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